Anyone who goes through sight loss will know that so many things change. Your life can truly look totally different after you or someone you know loses their sight for whatever reason. I have spoken many times about changes that take place and will most likely continue to speak about those changes in the future. But, I thought today, instead of discussing the many, many changes we face as VIPs, I thought I would take this opportunity to mention just a few of the things that DON'T change after sight loss.
It's All Different
It is easy to get focused on all of the changes that you are going through when losing your sight. From things at home to your position at work, there are so many areas where you are having to adapt and adjust to the world around you based on lower vision. It can, at times, seem like everything is changing and nothing will ever be the same.
While there is certainly some truth in the fact that things won't ever be exactly the same, there are still some moments in life where sight loss doesn't necessarily have its grip on. So, here are four things that aren't automatically changed by sight loss.
1. The Ability to Love
Often times, a person feels very worthless after sight loss. They feel like no one will love them because of what they can no longer do. But, this simply isn't the case. We, as people, have the ability to love and to be loved by those around us regardless of our level of vision.
Think about someone you sincerely love. Maybe it is a spouse, child or very close friend. Think about how much you loved them before losing your sight. Now, think about how much you love them afterwards. Do you find much difference? Probably not. In fact, you might find that you love them even more.
By the way, here's a little secret: They don't love you any less either. So, in that sense, nothing has changed for them when it comes to loving you. Love isn't based on your ability to see the other person physically, but to experience who they are at a much deeper level.
Love isn't based on your ability to see the other person physically, but to experience who they are at a much deeper level.
2. Joy of Eating Good Food
I don't know about you, but I love trying new kinds of food. There are obviously a few things I have tried and didn't like, but there have been so many other things that have been so amazing to eat.
When my wife and I recently traveled to Disney World, we tried a few restaurants we had never been to before. We got to eat French food, had the most delicious pot roast I had ever eaten and ate nearly everyday at a bakery right near our resort. All of the different foods made for such an enjoyable time. Every time we sat down and ate these amazing items, we were able to smile, laugh, discuss and enjoy each other's company. Not to mention we got to eat delicious food!
Food, by itself, can be so wonderful to enjoy. But, it also allows you the opportunity to share in a moment or two of connection with another human being. And, no sight requred!
3. Impact of Music
For me, music has been a central part of my life for many years. I have always loved listening to it. Even more than that, I love when I have the chance to perform it. Whether it is singing a solo in the choir or performing in a musical theatre production, music has had a major effect on my life.
Music truly has the power to impact us at many points in our lives. Imagine when you are feeling down and you hear that song that lifts you up. Or, perhaps you are going through something that you are having trouble expressing and here's comes a song that says exactly what you are looking for. Music is more than just notes on a page or sounds from the radio. It can bring life, hope, joy and so many other things that might seem very distant after losing your sight.
4. Smelling the Roses
There's that old saying that we should all “stop and smell the roses.” It basically means that we should slow down and enjoy the things around us. I don't know if it was intended to be literal or not, but in this case, it is one thing we certainly can still partake in after sight loss.
It has been said that the sense of smell is strongly connected to your memory. Imagine smelling your grandma's perfume or your dad's cigar smoke. It can immediately take you back to those times spent with those people. And, it gives you the chance to stop and take in the moments around you. Even if the smell isn't particularly pretty, it can still be very powerful. (i.e. Gym socks might remind you of when you won the big game in high school)
It seems obvious to mention that we can still smell. But, the next time you are somewhere new, take a few moments to experience the smells around you. You might just find that you pick up on things your sighted companions do not.
The Middle of Chaos
I have heard it said that in a tornado, there is the space inside that is somewhat calm. Sort of the “eye of the hurricane” idea. That is what I want you to think about today. Though your life is changing all around you, there are still moments where life hasn't changed. Take a minute to think about those and find rest in the chaos.
Which one of the things mentioned above do you identify with the most? Let me know in the comments below!