There are many activities that I enjoy. I love to hang out with friends and family in a variety of ways. Going to the movies, enjoying a fancy dinner and attending a concert are all ways that I have fun with family. But, one way that really bothers me seems to be something that my family really enjoys. It is a simple thing that has been enjoyed by countless people for decades. Everyone gathers around a table, picks a color or piece and does their best to beat everyone else. What is this past time? Board games.
From Sorry and Candy Land to Monopoly and Risk, there are tons of board games for people to enjoy. In theory, these are a great idea. Everyone gets their own side with the ability to move around a board with the goal of defeating all their friends and family. And, what better way to spend a Friday night than stomping your brother or sister in a good game of Battleship? But, for me, it is not so fun.
First of all, let's take the game pieces as an example. They are typically very small and almost always blend in with the board. Plus, all of the spaces that you are supposed to move on seem to be near invisible to me. On top of that, you typically roll a set of dice or spin something to tell you how many spots you should move. Now, imagine doing all of that with your eyes closed. Not so much fun, huh? My family is accommodating, telling me what number I rolled and moving my piece for me. But, it seems to take the joy out of it at that point.
Then you have things like Trivial Pursuit. This game, like many others, requires you to read a question from a card to another player. Again, nearly impossible for me. My family, again, is accommodating and helps to read the questions for me. But, like the game piece, just doesn't feel the same.
Now, at this point, you might be wondering why I would ever put myself in a place to play a board game again. After all, for games like Sorry, I'm pretty much sitting there while my wife is essentially playing two pieces. It is genuinely no fun to sit there with a constant reminder of my sight loss hitting me in the face every time it is “my turn.”
So, why would I do this? Family and friends.
I'll be the first to admit that I sit out of a lot of board games that my family play. I don't enjoy it and don't want to put myself through it. Then, I hear my kids laughing because mommy got sent back to “Home” or someone lost a turn. I realize that I am missing out on something. I'm missing out on a moment of joy in my family's life. It doesn't automatically take away the uncomfortableness I will experience by sitting their having my wife move my piece around the board. But, it does help my wife and kids know I love them and want to enjoy time with them.
Listen, there are many things that could fall into this category. Board games aren't the only thing. But, it does seem to come up in my family somewhat often. I do hate board games, yes. But, I love what they offer to my family. A chance to sit down with no screens in our faces and enjoy each other. For that, I'll endure a few uncomfortable feelings now and then.
Wow, this one ended up less about being blind and more about being a husband and daddy. Well, I write what comes out. At the end of the day, I guess my main point is that sometimes you will do things that are uncomfortable, physically, emotionally or otherwise. But, within that uncomfortable feeling might be the opportunity to make a memory that will impact those around you. My encouragement would be to face the discomfort, make your memory and see what happens. I bet you'll be surprised.
Anybody want to play Chutes and Ladders?
Do you face these challenges from time to time? How have you over come them? Let me know int eh comments below!